Sexual Intimacy and Family Life

I thought this lesson was great, and it was nice to know that I wasn't the only woman in this world that felt that way about my husband.  It thought that it was interesting that there were couple out there that hadn't had sexual intimacy from their spouse in years and how easy it is not to do it and it can affect your relationship with your spouse. Sexual intimacy is not that important in the marriage but it allows the couple to bond.  I thought that it was intersting that women and men's peaks were very different- men hit their peak at 18, 19 years old and then it decreases as they get older whereas for women thier sexual peak hits at age 30-35 ish.  That's way off but evenutally it meets in the middle.

Brother Williams mentioned that couples who have been married 20 years tend to enjoy it more than when you first get married, because they are more comfortable with each other and knows what they like. The key thing is communicating what you like and then it progresses from there.  I think often people in the church are taught no their whole lives and then when they get married, its okay.  They need that period of education of what's going to happen so that they are more comfortable.

We also talked about how we should give our spouse our attention and not to lust over someone in ways such as pornography, fantatizing, and affiars.  It was discussed that when you spend time with other people besides your spouse, you become more comfortable with each other, then the relationship can progress as you spend more time with each other and telling each other your dreams or you problems and that can can destroy your marriage/family even if you didn't have sexual interaction.  It's insane how satan works really hard to lead us away from those who we love and leads to a lot of heartache. It's amazing how our Father in Heaven gives us this to strengthen our marriages and to bring forth a family.  He wants us to enjoy each other in a way that you can't by being in each other presence- it allows us to become one.