Gender and Family Life

As usual, the class discussion was great. We talked about gender and family life.  We talked about the roles in family and even in the society.  We watched a couple of videos discussing how different men and women are.  It moslty talked about equality and how women had to fight for equal rights and bascially said that men should bring their level of whatever to our level so that we are capable of doing the same things. But in reality most women can't or don't have the same capablities as men do.  This week in my family foundations we also talked about equality in relationship between a wife and husband, we are equal in the realtionship. We have marriage between a man and woman for a reason- it allows us to become one with our spouse and in everything that goes on in the family.  In class we talked about how mothers are to be nurturers and men are to provide, protect and preside.  We correlated it with the genetic attributes that women and men usually have such as for women are usually more expressive, emotional, and so on and for men they tend to be agressive, suppressive and etc.  It was interesting to put those together and it made sense but some men and women are not like that, they may be vice versa.
Thats where same sex attraction comes in.  I thought that it was interesting that most parents either freak out or assume that thier child is gay when they play with toys that tend to be made for girls.  I think that it's sad that some parents will just say that they are gay and just basically raise that way when the child doesn't even know what gay means.  Brother Williams brought up a case he had where he had a father come in freaking out about his son liking girl stuff and didn't like playing with boy stuff.  He basically told the father that he needs to play with his son, have a relationship and to show intimacy towards him so that he can develop that kind of relationship.  And then the kid grew up just being just fine.  Brother Williams brought something up that I thought that was really interesting and had never thought of it in that way before.  But when a parent sees their child playing with girl stuff and force them to play with boy stuff, basically trying to change them that those characteristics that they had such as sensitivity is the same attributes that our Savior has, why would we want to change that.  It's all about parenting and how you act towards your child.
Same sex attraction has been a topic for this class and my other class for the last 2 weeks and it's just really nice to have the "science" and the religion aspect of it and being able to correlate it together.  I now  have more of a understanding and more love for those who may have chosen that lifestyle even though it's wrong but the Lord still loves them regardless.  I just wish they could understand that thats not how they were born and it is a choice that they made even if they were abused/ mislabled or not.  I'm glad that we have therapists out there like Brother Williams to help those who are willing to ask for help.